9 year old David comes home from school and told his Mum that his friend said him he was a loser in front of a group of friends.
15 year old (in tears) Talia has her Dad pick her up from a party because a girl in another class told someone she likes her friend’s boyfriend.
6 year old Joseph tells grandma that he hates school because the other kids try not to not play with him.
If you’ve worked with young people for any length of time, you will know of course that kids and teens have negative experiences with other children and young people very frequently. From the age of 4 (when physical aggression starts to decrease) feeling hurt, frustrated, distressed and disappointed when interacting with friends and classmates becomes increasingly common.
For example, one study found that children report having a conflict with one of their good friends approximately once per fortnight. Another study found that approximately 60% of children and teens report having a “mutual enemy” (someone they dislike and who dislikes them) which presumably is associated with at least some negative interactions. Other studies find that - depending on how you ask the question - 1 in 4 children/young people say they have experienced “bullying” during their primary or secondary yearsRead More