Working with children with anxiety

I’ve just looked at our clinic calendars and despite us seeing 200 young people this week, our waiting lists for new clients are currently stretching out to around 2-3 months.  More than ever, there are children and young people facing challenges – and families who are looking for support and answers.

One of the major issues facing young people is anxiety.  Anxiety is the most commonly diagnosed mental health condition in children – and certainly it makes up a large proportion of the families who work with us.

Unfortunately, services can’t always keep up with demand for services in supporting kids with this issue – and getting help for children and young people who experience anxiety can take some time.

The good news is that supporting children to manage anxiety doesn't always *need* a psychologist.  Parents and carers, teachers and other professionals can be very effective at helping children manage anxiety and increase their confidence.  

Here are a few ideas all adults (including psychologists, as well as teachers, health professionals, parents and carers) might find useful in supporting children with anxiety.

1.      Focus on increasing brave and confident behaviour

The part of our brain which monitors threat takes notice of our body language, how we act, speak and where we go and don't go.  It then uses this information to help gauge how much threat we are actually experiencing.  When we ACT in brave and confident ways, our brain says "huh, everything must be okay" - and gradually we FEEL more confident.  When we ACT in brave and confident ways, we have experiences which tell us we can cope.  Brave and confident behaviour helps us feel less anxious.

This is true for children too.  The more we a child/teen acts in brave and confident ways, the less anxious they will feel.

It is important to try to think very specifically about what brave and confident actions or behaviours we can help a child work towards.  We don't simply want to tell children/their families to "act more confidently" but instead identify what that might actually look like.  For example, when I work with families on separation anxiety, I ask parents/carers this question:

If this child was not anxious, what would we see them doing or saying in these situation?   And what about in this situation?

As you can see, I am trying to identify brave and confident behaviours for us to work on.  For example, at school drop off - it might be the child having their head up, saying good bye in a confident voice and walking over to friends.  When Mum goes out at night, it might be a child who says “have a good time” and only calls/texts Mum one time.

I then a) explain to children why this brave behavior is important (it will slowly make you feel less afraid), b) break the behaviour down into small steps, and c) use rewards and encouragement in order to help the child start to act this way.

For example, for a child who needs help acting more confidently with peers, I might draw a “ladder” or a "snake" on a piece of paper - divide it up into many sections and ask a parent/other adult to provide the child with a stamp/smiley face every time they look at someone’s eyes and say hello.

Here you can see I am skipping straight to the "positive opposite" (thanks Alan Kazdin) - for some children I work with, this is the most important part of the invention (more so, for example, than getting them to see their "irrational" fears).

2.      Slowly reduce avoidance

In the same way that acting more confidently increases confidence, acting in anxious ways over times actually increases anxiety.   In other words – when children avoid situations which make them anxious, they will become more anxious.

I am always assessing any avoidance in children.  This avoidance might be obvious (ie they never go near a dog) or it might be subtle (they avoid looking at something, or try to distract themselves in the presence of something).

This doesn’t mean that everything a child avoids needs to be faced.  One of my children would rather die than go on a roller-coaster and frankly I’m fully supportive of his avoidance of these contraptions!

However, when the avoidance is about something that would normally enrich a child’s life – this is when it is a problem.  For example when I’m working with children, I’m always on the lookout for full or subtle avoidance of - social situations, learning opportunities and new experiences – and I talk with parents/carers about how we reduce this avoidance.  (I call this "scared behaviour" rather than avoidance with children/families).
                           
This can be done gradually if needed ("you just need to go for 5 minutes", "you can take your ipad while you are there", "you can go and sit in the library for a while in the morning if you need", "you only need to say one sentence") – but it doesn’t need to be done, and gradually increased.

If we just hope the child will “grow out of” acting in an anxious way, we run the very real risk that children will become more anxious over time.

To help explain this to parents/carers and children - I draw a looping cycle on my whiteboard with a circle with "avoidance" and an arrow to "fear" and then another arrow leading back to "avoidance".  It's important to be non-judgemental about this I find - and I will try to find an example from my own life to explain how it is absolutely instinctive to avoid things that are scary.

Sometimes I ask families if they have seen "The Croods" as this movie gives a good example of how it had a lot of survival value to avoid scary things.

3.      Teach children to tolerate and manage anxiety in constructive ways

Anxiety is part of being human.  And unfortunately for some people (kids and adults) – it is more debilitating than for the average person.  Around 30% of people are “emotionally sensitive” with strong emotional reactions, and this often emerges in childhood or adolescence.  Life can be pretty tough for people like this.

It's important to support children to find constructive ways to live with anxiety and worry - and to ask them what has worked for them.  There are many strategies we can offer young people – including those listed above – such as relaxation, exercise, social support, calming words, reducing opportunities for uninterrupted rumination.  Some questions I find useful are:

What has helped you act more bravely in the past?
What times in your life have you felt less anxious?
What could you say to yourself to help you cope?
What do other kids do to help them cope with they are anxious?
How would you like to manage your worry?

I encourage children and families to have written strategies and plans.  Sometimes this might just be a set of "coping cards" in a pencil case, a reminder on a phone or a set routine for bedtime worries.

4.  Be prepared to not be able to "fix it" with "reasons not to worry" 

Our first response when children tell us they are worried or anxious is often to tell them why they “shouldn’t” be afraid.  We tell them not to worry “because…..”. 

Parents/carers use this "don't worry" approach all the time - but as professionals we do it too.  There is a huge pressure on us to "fix" children who struggle with worry and we often go straight to the "but it's fine because.................". 

Unfortunately this often doesn’t work very well.  There are two reasons for this. 

First, for many children, their fear or anxiety is not entirely based on rational arguments – it’s “just a feeling”.  If you consider separation anxiety as an example - many children who experience this can’t explain why, or what they are worried about – they just feel anxious and uncomfortable when they are away from their caregivers.  We usually can't fix this problem by giving kids reasons to be calm - because they are not worried about any particular problem - they just feel anxious.

The second reason why using logic doesn't always work is that we do live in an uncertain world – and scary and difficult events do occur.  Children know this.  A very bright child I was working with recently was extremely anxious about his parents getting cancer.  Mum/Dad had talked endlessly with him about their current good health – to no avail.  He was still worried because he knew that 1 in 3 Australians will get cancer in their lifetime.

Instead of trying to tell a child not to worry and to endlessly reassure them - sometimes we need to just be with them.

Remember the last time you felt worried about something at work/home/with your family, and a friend empathised, listened and cared for you?  If you are like most of us, it made you feel a little better.  Maybe more than if they'd just said "you should stop worrying because..........." 

Empathy can be helpful for children too.

I’m sorry you are worried about this.
I can see you are anxious - may I give you a hug?
I think lots of kids feel worried about this sometimes.
I've worried about that too.

It is not possible - nor our job - to remove all worry and anxiety from children's lives. 

But it is possible - and our job in part - to care for them as they experience it.

All the best for your work with children

Kirrilie

I am running a free seminar for parents/carers in Adelaide on managing anxiety in children in a couple of weeks time. If you’d like to attend, please click on the link below.

https://developingminds.net.au/free-parenting-seminar

If you are working with children and families who are struggling with anxiety– you might like to consider referring them to our online support program – www.calmkidcentral.com 

This provides you with the opportunity to ask our child psychologists unlimited questions online and get answers within 48 hours – as well as videos for 5-11 year children to watch and learn about managing worry themselves.  It is free for Adelaide based families with a health care card (and if families don’t live in Adelaide, they can just sign up for a month for $28).

Professionals have their own version of Calm Kid Central too - go to www.calmkidcentral.com/professionalsonly

 

Calm Sentence Starter Resource for kids/teens with "big feelings"

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This week I've felt disappointed and worried about various situations.  One of my kids was sick and I was worried about him.  I had a disagreement with my partner and felt frustrated. I felt overwhelmed by my task list at work.

In other words, I'm a (fairly :)) normal human being who had a pretty normal week.  As humans, we all experience difficult times - and negative emotions - most of us at least weekly, if not every day.

One of the strategies most adults instinctively use to cope with these negative emotions is to generate calm, reassuring and positive sentences to say to ourselves to give us another perspective on our situation.   

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An article published by the Australian Psychological Society in 2009 estimated that 50,000 children in Australia each year experience separation and divorce each year.  This means as professionals who work with children, we are likely to have many children in our classrooms and therapy rooms who are experiencing this life change at any one time.  

Obviously there is a great deal of variety in how these children manage.  Some of them find the experience pretty hard going for a while. They might feel sad, worried about the future, irritated, guilty or frustrated.  Sometimes these feelings creep out as tricky behaviour, becoming "clingy", crying, "acting out", getting more frustrated than normal, anxious behaviour or struggles at school.

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One of our jobs as professionals is to help young people express their negative emotions clearly and respectfully - to us, and to others.

This isn't easy.  Many children and teens find it hard to tell us how they feel when they are upset, angry, worried or embarrassed.  

This is not surprising.

It is not easy for us as adults to describe negative emotions, what might have caused them and what we would like to happen differently.   It's even harder for young people, with less developed brains - and sometimes bigger and more powerful feelings which interfere with communication skills anyway.

Something to work on.......

While it is normal for young people to struggle to say how they feel AND it's okay for them to choose not to tell us everything they feel upset about - it's also important for them to gradually improve their ability to express negative emotion.

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“AAARRRRKKGGGH”

This was (roughly speaking - I may have got the spelling wrong) the word *Josh yelled when a leaf blower was used outside our office in a session last month.  At the same time, he put his hands over his ears and ran to the corner. 

Josh hates loud noises and gets really distressed whenever they occur around him.  It’s especially hard for him when they are sudden.

And Josh of course is not unusual  – there are many children who are extremely sensitive to loud noise.  Many children I see clinically will report some sensitivity to noise.  Sometimes noise sensitivity is associated with a broader sensory disorder (for example, Autism Spectrum Disorder), but sometimes these are just noise sensitive kids without any further disorders in the background. 

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To The Bone (yes, netflix does it again)

Last night, I settled in with my large hot chocolate on the couch to watch the movie on eating disorders - “To The Bone”. 

For those of you who haven’t seen the shorts – this is a movie about a young woman with anorexia who gets treatment for an eating disorder.  She has a short stay in a group home facility, meets others with eating disorders, has some family therapy, a short romantic relationship with another person with an eating disorder and ponders whether she really does want to get “better” and overcome her eating disorder.

Along with many of you - I've worked with many kids/teens with symptoms of disordered eating and struggles with body image for many years - so I was keen to see whether this was going to be a useful movie I could recommend to families.

Unfortunately, I don’t think it is. 

But as usual when it comes to these kinds of issues, I have mixed feelings.  Here are my thoughts.

Here are the four aspects of this movie I like.

1. The movie will raise awareness of the existence and nature of eating disorders.  This is probably a good thing.  Although as professionals working with young people we are often (or constantly - depending on your role) - exposed to eating and weight related problems - society in general doesn't get a lot of exposure to this problem.  Movies like this therefore may be helpful in that people with an eating disorder may watch and feel comforted to be reminded they are not alone.  Those in the general community may learn about these disorders and feel compassion for those who suffer. 

However, while awareness is important - we should keep in mind that only about 2% of children and teens develop an eating disorder during their childhood/adolescence in this country.  While eating disorders are a problem for society as whole (and probably under-reported because of the shame and lack of motivation for some sufferers to go into what is usually a painful and difficult treatment) – they are not as common as anxiety or depression in young people.  I make this point because sometimes movies like these mean we start over-stating the prevalence of these disorders which I think is also unhelpful – and may even normalize something which is still uncommon.

2.      The movie shows some of the problems and suffering experienced by those with an eating disorder

The main character looks drawn and haggard (more on this in a minute), with excessive body hair, fainting episodes, talks about being hungry and is sometimes anxious and distressed.  The movie doesn’t shy away from the fact that eating disorders are painful.

3.      The movie also clearly shows how distressing an eating disorder can be for family members. 

The very real struggle for families with a family member with an eating disorder is not widely understood.  I liked that the movie made family suffering a prominent part of the character’s story.

4.      The movie also shows that treatment is available and can be effective. 

In the movie, several of the characters in the group therapy home seem to be improving which provides a positive message about eating disorder treatment.  I’m pleased about this – this could be life saving for those with eating disorders who haven’t yet sought treatment.   This is especially important because people with eating disorders often don’t get treatment quickly – there is an average of four years between the emergence of eating problems and first sessions of therapy.  And the longer people delay getting treatment, the less successful treatment is likely to be. 

On the flip side however, the only people getting treatment in this movie are those who are particularly sick.  I felt like this could suggest  that you need to be severely unwell before you can get help – which of course could be a particularly dangerous message for some young people who don’t think they are “sick enough” and need to get worse first.

So, all good then?  Should we start showing this movie in schools?  Suggesting families we work with see this movie?

No.  Unfortunately alongside these positive messages, the movie also contains some unfortunate messages and some unhelpful content. 

Here are five big problems with this movie.

 1. The movies clearly outlines some of the “methods” of eating disorders

You could learn a lot from how to develop an eating disorder from this movie if you were so inclined.  For example the house group members share tips and tricks to continue to lose weight/binge/purge secretly even while in treatment and the main character is repeatedly shown to use a range of strategies to maintain her disorder.   There is a real risk that some young people could use this movie as somewhat of a “how to” in eating disorders.

2. The key character with an eating disorder in the movie is funny, engaging, charismatic, talented and – despite looking sick – still conventionally attractive.   

Of course it’s not a crime to be any of these things (and what was I expecting with a Hollywood movie) but I can’t help but wish the main character had been older/less conventionally beautiful/with less obvious talent and maybe slightly more annoying.  Young people are desperate to be liked, cared for, admired and talented.  I wouldn’t be at all surprised to discover that many teens have watched this and feel envious and aspire to be like her.

3. It doesn't show the extent of the usual kind of suffering experienced by those with an eating disorders. 

Eating disorders are devastating and life destroying (for example, they have the highest mortality rate of any psychiatric disorder).  The character in the movie does look troubled at times, but throughout the movie she is often happy and making jokes.  She rarely seems as depressed and socially isolated as most of the young people with eating disorders I’ve come into contact with.  It's a particular shame that the social isolation and conflict often experience by young women with eating disorders is not highlighted - as in my experience sometimes these are powerful motivators for young people to get treatment/work hard at treatment.

4. It doesn't show what's involved in effective treatment.

In the movie, treatment appears to involve some cosy chats with Keanu Reeves (the strong, single, very attractive and very cool male therapist role model – not exactly representative of the kind of psychologists usually involved in eating disorder treatment 😊), living in a “party of five” type of fun house with a lot of peer support, some group meals where everyone chooses what to eat (this is unconvential for typical eating disorder treatment) and a very unsettling bottle feeding routine between the character and her mum towards the end of the movie. 

This is not representative of the kind of evidence based treatment for eating disorders, which suggests that family based, cognitive behavioural therapy – over many sessions – is most useful.  Also, from my experience, eating disorder treatment involves enduring a lot more tears, anger, panic, guilt and even feelings of disgust for most people.

So in conclusion – I can see four positive messages, and four unhelpful ones. 

However - given the potential danger in exposing young people to these unhelpful messages in this movie, I’d rather young people didn’t watch it. 

I believe that for some kids and teens who either have or who are at risk of developing an eating disorder, it could quite feasibly trigger jealousy, anxiety about current weight, desire for weight loss and disordered eating behaviour.

What’s the solution?

Although I’d rather this movie have not been made in the way it has, given that it has – we need to deal with it.  I’m not a fan of banning movies altogether for teenagers. 

What should we say to parents if they ask us?

The outright “no, you can’t watch it” might be appropriate for younger children.  I am saying to parents - if your younger child asks to watch it, and think you it’s unlikely they will be able to sneak onto Netflix later – say no.  Don’t forget to use this as an opportunity to talk with them about the issue however. 

I suggest to parents and caregivers they might say something like this:

“This movie is for adults and older teens.  It has some ideas in it which are upsetting and might make you feel worried about adult stuff.  If you still want to watch it in a year or two, we can do together.  Let’s watch X together instead”

I think we need to empower parents to "take charge" and prevent viewing for some younger adolescents.  An important message from us as professionals is that - just because "everyone else" is watching it, doesn't mean they have to let their young people.  Sometimes parents need to hear this from us, it gives them permission to do something they feel is the right thing to do.  I often tell parents/caregivers about other families I know who are putting this particular rule in place - there is something about the power of social norms which gives them the courage to do the same.

Having said all of this, there is no point parents/caregivers "banning" the movie for a teen who then goes and watches in on their phone.  If this happens the problem is exacerbated by secrecy, guilt and loss of conversation opportunity.  Here's what I am saying to parents about this:

"However if your older child – for example a 16 year plus teenager -  wants to watch it and can’t be distracted by another suggestion, ask them if you can watch it together and talk about it afterwards."

I am also providing them with some ideas about questions to ask (as always, being as specific as possible with parents about exactly what words they might consider using seems to help them be able to broad these conversations).  Here are some question ideas for parents/caregivers I've come up with - I'm sure you have some of your own.

How often do teens want to be thinner?
What’s the difference between wanting to be thin and an eating disorder – do you know?

How often do teens feel really anxious about food? Their weight?
How about you?
How realistic do you think this movie is?  In what way is it realistic/unrealistic?
I think there are probably a few different things which cause eating disorders – do you have any ideas about some of the causes?

Do you think the way we think about appearances in our society plays a part in causing eating disorders?

Do you think eating disorders are more like an addiction – or more like a anxiety problem?

Have you ever felt a bit like the character in the movie?

What would you do if you starting to feel like the character in the movie?

There are no right or wrong answers to these questions – but it will help you identify whether there are any risks you need to monitor, and help encourage your teenager to talk with you about their opinions and thoughts.

Here are some ideas about things to say:

I’ve read that this doesn’t accurately show what it’s like to have an eating disorder.  It seems like it’s a lot more complex, and much more painful than what this shows.

I like that it shows that there is treatment.  I don’t think this is the kind of treatment that is used here in Australia.
I would worry that it seems like there is something exciting or interesting about having this disorder.

I would hate you to ever get into that kind of cycle.  I know it would be pretty easy for it to start – it’s so addictive for some people to lose weight/throw up/not eat/exercise too much.  Because it’s really easy to get stuck into it, I’m going to do what I can to make sure you don’t get stuck in that cycle,

What else can we do as professionals?

Of course, we should also be asking questions and providing an alternative perspective if we are involved in conversations with young people about this movie.

We also need to get into the habit of "screening" for eating disorders in young people.  Particularly keep an eye on young people with perfectionistic traits and high levels of anxiety (shown to be associated with eating disorders)

Most of them are not getting help quickly, and hide the problem for a long time. Interestingly, some research suggests that most young people with an ED do actually talk with professionals prior to starting treatment but talk about other problems - health problems, anxiety and depression and other areas of concern.  This same research suggest that while young people frequently don't volunteer information about their disordered eating - they actually would welcome questions about it, given the level of suffering they are often experiencing.

A group of researchers in 2003 (Cotton, Bell, Robinson) found that the two best screening questions for eating problems were:  Does your weight affect the way you feel about yourself? and "Are you satisfied with your eating patterns".  We might have to modify these for younger kids, but this is a good start.

In terms of treatment, research suggests that family based treatment is superior to individual treatment for young people - so it's important that we are involving family as soon as possible.  And given the risks to safety which exist for young people with eating disorders, I believe this often means we need to consider breaking confidentiality when a young person confides in us about disordered eating behaviours.  Obviously we need to tread carefully here, but eating disorders are not something to be taken lightly.

If you'd like some support within this area as a professional, please feel free to click here for more information about our supervision.

 

 

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Given the prevalence of this issue, we can’t bury our head in the sand.  Teenagers everywhere are doing this - including the teens we work with.

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Thousands of kids and teens all over this country this school holidays are spending hours each day gaming.  It’s not surprising. As a society we’ve introduced a set of humans with partially formed brains (and willpower skills) to a highly addictive, satisfying and fascinating activity and naturally enough they are having trouble turning it off.

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This raises the question of how appropriate these videos are for children.  It's hard to tell.  None of this content is “rated” as G, PG, M etc in the same way that commercially produced television has been in the past.  And with more than 300 hours of video being uploaded to youtube every minute, my guess is that external ratings guides like this are going the way of the dinosaur.

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It's no wonder that sometimes dealing with negative emotions or mental health issues in students seems like an impossible task on top of another set of demands.

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