One of the great joys of parenting is watching children play happily together. There’s nothing quite like the magic of seeing children laugh and have fun together, or watching children use their imagination, come up with a creative game and act it out.
Of course, in the real world (goodbye Johnson and Johnson moment) it doesn’t always happen that way. Instead, we often hear yelling and tears: “that’s not fair!”, “who said you were the boss??” and screaming and storming off sometimes ensues!
At this point, it’s much less delightful, it must be said. :)
While some kids will often eventually resolve the conflict themselves, some (think kids with big feelings, strong independent streaks or difficulties with flexibility just to name a few) find it harder. And for ALL children, sometimes play just gets hard.
It can be helpful for us as adults to proactively provide a few tips, coach and help children learn to play games kindly and fairly with each other.
Generally it’s better to do this kind of coaching before the problems begin, and to also ask children to think about specific games they play rather than “playing” in general. Here are a few specifics in coaching children to play kindly and fairly.Read More