In our offices we have a copy of a book called "Everybody has a Bottom".  It's a book for kids to help them understand that parts of our bodies are private and not for showing or touching other people.

I was transporting it between offices recently and my kids read it aloud with great gusto and laughter.  But it was a perfect opportunity for me to have another conversation with them about what is okay and not okay with regards to bodies and touching, and helping make sure they stay safe.

Maybe you've already talked with your kids about this.  I had too.  But one - or two - conversations are not enough.  Think about how often we have to remind our kids to speak kindly to each other!  Children need reminders at least once a year about this issue.  

We work every day with teens who think about hurting themselves or about dying.  Part of our job is to help parents understand this, and how to respond.  Here's the most important things for adults to know about suicidal thinking and self harm in teens.

Suicidal Thoughts: Many teens who struggle with anxiety, depression or difficult life challenges think about ending their life at some point.   Most commonly these thoughts will be something like “there is no point to life”, “I may as well be dead”, “I don’t want to live anymore”.  Some studies have suggested up to 30% of teens will think about suicide at this level.  Other, more distressed teens, will thoughts like these and ALSO will think about a specific method and time for them to kill themselves.  This is a higher level of suicidal ideation and is less common.

If you have an anxious child or teen, or one with challenging behaviors or a disability/struggling with extra challenges – then you know that getting them to do chores can be really tough.  

Unfortunately well meaning parents with these kids/teens sometimes make mistakes in setting chore.  These mistakes can make things worse for them and their young person.  Here are six common mistakes to look out for.

I just finished doing a worry workshop for a local primary school.  The ABC's Behind the News filmed it (the video is at the end of this post if you are interested - a good one to watch with your 8 to 11 year old child).

One of the topics I talked with the students about was the importance of acting in brave ways - even when they are feeling worried and anxious.  I can't overstate the importance of this step.

Here's what we know about anxiety in children - when children avoid things - situations/ people/ sensations/ feelings/environments - they get more anxious about these things as time goes on.

The more children avoid things they find scary, the more scared they get. 

If children avoid going into the classroom on their own, going to friends’ houses, talking to adults, playing sport – or other things they find nerve wracking – they will usually become more scared of these things over time.

Last week I was talking with a Mum who was very worried about her teenager and her anger. This teen was 14 and would scream and rage when told to turn off screens or that she wasn't allowed to go out and see her friends.  Her anger was scary - so much so that this Mum asked me "Does she has schizophrenia?"

She didn't.

While "rage attacks” can be scary, they are NOT usually a sign serious mental illness and are more common than parents realise.  Even teens who look like butter would not melt in their mouth while out in public, can get scarily angry at home.

Here are some ideas about how to cope.